Kids of Today – Day 1516

Today it’s sunny and the kids are on their half term break from (home) school. Not that they want to go out and enjoy the weather. They are quite content on their computers, playing video games and socialising with their friends online.

I have to resist the urge to kick them outside. Something my parents would have insisted I did, on a day like this. I can almost hear my mother yelling “get outside and call on your friends.” However, with social distancing in place it is impossible for my kids to go out and meet up with friends; most friends don’t live that close anyway.

I accept that things are different from when I was a kid. I didn’t have an extensive inventory of exciting multi-player and single-player games to keep me entertained. I had a Spectrum ZX and the best game I had was Horace Goes Skiing.

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There was no such thing as video calling either. My mother used to go mad if I was on the phone any longer than 20 minutes because of the phone bill. It was common for my mate to call me back so we could share the cost and talk for longer. Oh, and there was only one phone for the whole household. Back then, if you wanted to actually catch up with your friends, the easiest way was to physically go visit them.

Nowadays, it’s all done by video calls over WIFI or with free call minutes. My kids average several hours on the phone at any one time. Oh, and everyone has their own phone of course. They are lucky to have such resources to keep them entertained and socialising. However, my kids and their friendship groups don’t know any different, so it’s just the norm for them.

It is easy, when you have had nice childhood experiences, to want to try and re-create them for your own children. However, I remind myself that they’re not growing up in the same world that I did. Their world is larger, more connective and with so much more exciting technology to hand. They will have their own childhood experiences that will shape their lives.

I do still make them go on family walks though. Somethings will never change Mwahahahaha! x

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Mrs Mac

Managing My Emotions – Day 1502

 

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Whilst being on lockdown I have been trying to put together a website. I have to admit it’s been hard and I have made many mistakes along the way.

There have been times when I have wanted to pick up the laptop and hurl it across my office in an irrational display of rage.

When I come across something I cannot do and, its not obvious how to do it, I get really angry inside, then emotional. I just hate making mistakes. I know it’s a massive overreaction to the problem in hand but it’s me, I am working on it. It’s just the first time in a long time, probably since giving up alcohol, that I am doing something difficult.

Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new. Albert Einstein

Trying to create this website definitely reminds me of early sobriety. In my early days of sobriety, it wasn’t uncommon for me to have emotional flare up’s while navigating a new sober situation, like a night out or a back-answering tween.

Sometimes, I would get really angry (at god knows what) and start ruminating over an altercation I’d had with someone or I’d get really teary at the enormity of an up and coming social gathering. I learned in early sobriety that I had move through these emotions. It’s like the children’s book ‘Were Going on a Bear Hunt’. We can’t go over it, we can’t go under it, we can’t go around it. We have to go through it.

In early sobriety, I learned to accept my emotions and let them pass. I learned to take a deep breath, go for a walk or god forbid ask for help. (still not one of my strong points). In just the same way, I am learning to accept my emotions while working on my website. It hasn’t been easy but the same tools, taking a deep breath, going for a walk or asking for help, definitely still work.

I know avoiding a situation simply because I might make a mistake is the biggest mistake of all, so I push on. I will make more mistakes before I am finished and I accept I will get angry and emotional while I learn all there is to know about building a website. I will manage these emotions with the tools I have acquired and I will achieve what I set out to achieve. One day at a time eh. x

Mrs Mac

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VE Day – Day 1498

Its Victory in Europe (VE) Day today. It marks the end of the fighting in Europe during WW2. Being the 75th anniversary of VE day it is a National Holiday here in the United Kingdom.

Unfortunately, lots of celebrations have been limited or cancelled because we are still in Lockdown, due to the Coronavirus. There will be no street parties, parades or public gatherings this year.

However, that doesn’t stop people celebrating within their households with 1940’s style tea parties, participating in the two-minutes silence and watching a re broadcast of Winston Churchill’s victory speech, announcing the end to the fighting against Nazi Germany in Europe, during WW2.

There are many things we can do to mark the occasion. I will be getting our Union Jack bunting out and having ourselves a tea party later. Plus, I may subject the children to a War movie.

The UK news has covered VE Day a lot over the past few days, showing photos of the spontaneous celebrations which broke out across the UK after the announcement from Winston Churchill in 1945.

What I notice from all these photographs is, where’s the booze? All these photos show happy, relieved people. They are smiling, hugging and dancing in the streets, all inhibitions gone.

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It is heart warming to see these photos and reminds me that alcohol is not required to have fun. They knew it back then. I wish more people knew it now.

Mrs Mac

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