The Serenity Prayer – Day 1459

In my first year of Sobriety I went to AA for a couple of months. This is where I came across the Serenity Prayer for the first time.

Serenity Prayer

These simple words resonated with me immediately upon hearing them. Their meaning hit me somewhere deep inside and I have never forgotten them since.

When I find myself facing a difficult situation and getting overwhelmed, I quietly say these words to myself.

I am not praying to God; I use the words to remind myself that we cannot control everything in life.

At the moment, I hear a lot in the news and from my family about the things they cannot do anymore; due to the UK’s current self-isolation measures.

There is a lot we cannot control and it is hard. Very hard for some. I hear myself telling people, not to dwell on the things we cannot control for now, but instead concentrate on the things we can control.

I see a lot of cafes and restaurants turning into online takeaway’s and I see taxi drivers becoming delivery men for Amazon and the likes. Mr Mac is concentrating on building up other aspects of his business, while he has time. And not dwell on the parts of his business that are suffering.

A lot of people are accepting that they cannot do what they normally do and are embracing what they can control. It may not be perfect. But it’s better than worrying about things that are out of our hands.

As for me, I am struggling with not being allowed to go places or see my parents and friends. It’s not until your freedom is restricted that you realise how much you took it for granted.

I am making sure I go outside everyday for a walk. It’s a bit repetitive, walking the same routes. However, walking outside helps me, in a small way to connect with the world.  Mr Mac and the kids can even be persuaded to join me too (sometimes)!

I believe having this outlook on life comes straight from knowing the Serenity Prayer. I am grateful to AA for sharing this with me. It’s not always easy, but even when things seem bad, there is usually a small, sometimes tiny thing we can control.

Let’s focus on that. x

Mrs Mac

Adapting to Change – Day 1454

Photo by Biegun Wschodni on Unsplash

Due to the school closures here in the UK, I am on Day 3 of home schooling the kids. So far, it’s going okay. (though it is only Day 3). Modern technology means their schools have set homework online and they have a great choice of subjects to choose from. I’m so pleased I didn’t have to come up with their school work myself, Phew!

The tricky part for me is resisting the urge to compete with all those parents out there who are jumping on social media to share idyllic pictures of their children studying and sharing copies of their unrealistic home-school timetables.

I have to remind myself that I don’t need to compete. This is not a competition. I do not need to justify what I am doing nor do I need anyone’s approval for how I am doing it.
I’m going to concentrate on what me and my family need. Comparing myself to others is not helpful. What is helpful, is reminding myself that they are doing their thing and I am going to continue doing my thing. Both ways are fine. No need to compete.

Change affects us all and we need to be patient with ourselves while we work out what we wish to achieve and how we are going to go about it. It’s all too easy to look at what other people are doing and end up feeling inferior; like we should be doing more!
I believe it’s helpful to give ourselves time to adapt to the new way of things. This is definitely not a time to put pressure on ourselves or expect too much of ourselves or others.

It reminds me of early sobriety. When we need to keep things easy and not commit to too much. It is not sustainable to stop drinking and lose weight and learn a new language all at the same time. In the beginning we need to keep things simple, learn how to adapt to the change and then slowing add in new things. That is the way we succeed and thrive in early sobriety.

I am learning to be patient at home; to give myself and my family time to adapt to our new routine. I’m going to check in with the kids to ask what they think is working and I’m not going to have unrealistic expectations of them. Things don’t have to be perfect while we are figuring this out. We’ll keep things simple for now, change them if needs be and add new things in gradually.

With a greater appreciation for all the teachers out there x

Mrs Mac

Good News Headline – Day 1445

The BBC News headline last week made me smile.

‘Nolo beer’ sales rocket thanks to young teetotallers.

The report explains that sales of no or low alcohol beer are up 30% since 2016, as 18-24 year olds increasingly shun alcohol.

I gave up alcohol in April 2016 and back then, there was very little low or non alcohol drinks out there. It is amazing that in the past 4 years, this industry has recognised that there is a growing demand for low or no alcohol.

I think this is because people are more conscious of their physical and mental health. I hope that this change in attitude will create less of a stigma for people who don’t drink.

I know not everyone agrees with drinking 0.00% beers or wines in their sobriety and that is fine. I just love to hear reports like this:-

“growing health consciousness has prompted almost one in four young people to become teetotal.”

“The number of 18-24 year olds who say they don’t drink has increased by 6% in the past 12 months”

It makes me smile, to think the younger generation seem to have their head screwed on when it comes to alcohol. Certainly way more than I did at that age. It gives me hope that my children may not experience the same pressure I felt to drink alcohol from their peers or society as a whole.

I can only hope that as the young people across Britain grow up, the general culture around alcohol will change for the better too.

Mrs Mac